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Survey Says This Is What Makes The Perfect Wedding

The perfect wedding has 60 guests in attendance, takes place in a castle and has speeches which are just six minutes long

The perfect wedding has 60 guests in attendance, takes place in a castle and has speeches which are just six minutes long.

Research of 1,000 adults, who have been a wedding guest, also revealed the optimal amount to splash out on a wedding gift was £50.15 ($63.07).

When it comes to choosing a venue, the traditional location of a church was only preferred by 15 percent of guests, while 30 percent opted for a castle – making it more popular than a stately home (27 percent) and beach (20 percent).

Weddings abroad were divisive, with 34 percent in favor of attending one outside the UK.

Italy (21 percent), the Maldives (15 percent), Greece (14 percent) and Spain (13 percent) ranked the highest as the places most guests would like to attend a ceremony.

An all-you-can-eat buffet (50 percent) is the top food option, while 30 percent said they’d like to sit outside eating from different food trucks.

In fact, 35 percent said the typical three-course meal was outdated.

The perfect wedding has 60 guests in attendance, takes place in a castle and has speeches which are just six minutes long. JORDAN ARNOLD/UNSPLASH 

However, for those wanting a more formal sit down affair, a Sunday roast was most popular for 35 percent, followed by fish and chips (23 percent) and a BBQ (17 percent).

Cheesecake (20 percent), Eton mess (10 percent) and sticky toffee pudding (eight percent) rounded off the perfect dessert menu.

When it comes to sweet treats, more than a third (36 percent) of guests are in favor of not having a wedding cake at all.

Wedding planner expert Raj Somaiya, a judge on “Ultimate Wedding Planner,” the BBC Studios produced show currently airing on BBC Two, said: “It’s not easy planning the perfect day. You have guests from different generations from all aspects of life, from grandparents to school friends, and everyone needs to be entertained.

“Weddings have evolved so much over the years and they’re constantly evolving, so it can be hard to please everyone.

“That being said, our research has thrown up some interesting results, with the traditional church wedding only the sixth most popular venue for guests – behind a castle, stately home, beach, hotel and even a botanical garden.”

The perfect wedding has 60 guests in attendance, takes place in a castle and has speeches which are just six minutes long. MATTHEW ESSMAN/UNSPLASH

Raj Somaiya, who is a judge alongside Fred Sirieix and Sara Davies on the show, added: “Over the last decade, and particularly following the pandemic, people have rethought how they want to get married. We’re moving away from the traditional wedding and adding a more personal approach.

“There is no longer a strict format, and couples don’t need to comply with the norm. My advice is have the wedding you want and not just follow what generations before you have done.

“What was once popular might not always be, which is important to remember. The more personalized to the couple the better and more memorable for guests.”

The research, carried out by OnePoll, found more than one in 10 people would love to attend a vintage-themed wedding.

Christmas (10 percent), fairytale (10 percent) and even a 1920s event (eight percent) ranked among the top themed wedding choices.

For those hoping to have a wedding in the future, there was also an appetite to reject some traditions.

Not inviting the entire extended family (58 percent), getting married in a church (53 percent), only letting the men give speeches (49 percent) and giving the bride away (36 percent) are the top traditions that would go by the wayside.

The survey also revealed a series of songs which Brits think should be banned from weddings – including “Kung Fu Fighting” by Carl Douglas, “I Will Survive” by Gloria Gaynor and “YMCA” by the Village People.

Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” and the “Macarena” by Los Del Rio, are other songs which should be red-listed by wedding DJs.

Raj Somaiya added: “Now more than ever we’re seeing couples really thinking about the overall guest experience and coming up with their own unique approach to their day.

“However, trying to please everyone else on your wedding day could be a slippery slope – the research shows not everyone will agree with what you do.

“The most important thing about the whole day is the person you’re marrying – make sure you don’t lose sight of what’s important.

“Planning a wedding can be overwhelming but the most important thing is your love and your future together. This is the first day of the rest of your life!”

“Ultimate Wedding Planner” continues on Tuesday at 9 p.m. on BBC Two and is available on iPlayer.


  1. Relaxed atmosphere – 57 percent
  2. Laughter – 51 percent
  3. Good music – 48 percent
  4. Satisfying food – 47 percent
  5. Not too serious – 35 percent
  6. Alcohol – 33 percent
  7. An unintrusive photographer – 30 percent
  8. A well thought through seating plan – 28 percent
  9. Speeches which include funny revelations about the couple – 23 percent
  10. A live band – 23 percent
  11. Fully pre-paid bar – 23 percent
  12. Happy tears – 20 percent
  13. Late-night snacks – 18 percent
  14. Stunning dress – 18 percent
  15. Cocktails – 16 percent

Produced in association with SWNS Talker

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